Sex is seldom perfect, just like humans, so your fantasies are fantasies and reality is reality. When you realise that, you’ll begin to appreciate what you have. Here are 7 tips your make your sex experience better…
Many of us have drifted away from those we call our lovers.
Interestingly, we once thought we could never do without these same people, but we now live in the same space but there is no romance, no connection and almost no emotion.
When you have sex without connecting, it may be like eating sawdust in a 5 star hotel – tasteless and emotionally expensive.
If you are in this situation, you should know that you can turn around the situation like a magician by simply putting 1 and 1 together to get 1.
You must not expect perfect sex like you see in porn movies. Expecting you lover to act like the people you see in porn/romantic movies is not going to help you. Come down to reality and enjoy what you have. Sex is seldom perfect just like humans so your fantasies are fantasies and reality is reality. When you realise that, you’ll begin to appreciate what you have.
Your past should remain in the past. One of the worst things you could do is to let you sexual past dictate your present. Past pains/experiences, lost lovers, etc, should be left in the past – release yourself to the moment. Only then will you really give in to the power of what you share with your lover.
You should learn how to touch your partner. Outside the touch of sexual organs, learn how to be in constant physical connecting with your lover. Small, random kisses, innocent touches on the face, butt, back, neck and just about any spot will connect you guys. Affectionate touches, kissing and cuddling are expressions of love that are highly rewarding and can even lead to hot, steamy sex.
You must activate the adventure mode. Are you stuck in the prudish past? It’s time to get out and try new things in the spirit of adventure. You might take this time to explore oral, anal and other sexual form with your partner. Daring sex positions will also do you a lot of good. Gone are the days when people who attempt ‘crazy’ sex styles are seen as ‘spoilt’. Get some fun!!!
You should have unplanned sex more often. Having a timetable for sex with your lover may work for you, but it is better to throw in unplanned sex many times. The anticipation of planned sex is nothing compared to the excitement of knowing that your man or woman can give it to you anytime and anywhere without warning.
You must forget to talk about the issues. Is anything bothering you or you noticed your partner is suddenly acting out of sync? Talk! Find out what’s wrong and deal with it. Also be open to sexual discussions on preferences, problems and/or fantasies. You just might hit one chord there.
You can make sex fun by dressing and playing games. You know, sex takes on a new dimension when you play roles and dress for the moment. For example, wearing sexy lingerie can heighten the man’s excitement. Also, role playing – police arresting woman, nurse treating man, knight rescuing damsel – will make it fun all the way. Don’t think just getting naked is enough for sex. Nice perfume, shaving, wearing tight boxers/sexy underwear all contribute to the moment.
Don’t let the romance disappear from the relationship entirely before you make the move.
Simply trying out these tips from 1 down to 7 can do a lot.